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     After three years of living his dream as a professional baseball pitcher, Mike Robbins had an arm injury that benched him for good, and when this happened, everything changed. He had to figure out who he was without the identity of “baseball player”—a process fraught with emotional highs and lows—and he quickly realized that the self-criticism and self-doubt he was fe     After three years of living his dream as a professional baseball pitcher, Mike Robbins had an arm injury that benched him for good, and when this happened, everything changed. He had to figure out who he was without the identity of “baseball player”—a process fraught with emotional highs and lows—and he quickly realized that the self-criticism and self-doubt he was feeling are in fact epidemic in our culture. Too often we base our value on our external world—our jobs, finances, appearance, or various other factors. Even the most successful people struggle with their relationship with themselves. In Nothing Changes Until You Do, Mike looks at this delicate relationship and brings to light a new way to look at life, opening your eyes to your innate value.     These 40 inspiring essays, which are real tales from Mike’s own life and the lives of his clients, boil down some of the most important lessons Mike has learned on his own personal journey—and as he’s traveled throughout the country for over a decade speaking to groups of all kinds. With themes spanning from the importance of trusting yourself to the benefits of vulnerability to the strength inherent in embracing change, this book shows you how to get out of your own way and make peace with yourself. With humor, authenticity, and ease, Mike illustrates that with a little self-compassion and a healthy dose of self-acceptance, anyone can turn away from the negatives that manifest because of a critical self-perception—things like unkindness, insecurity, addictions, sabotaged relationships, unnecessary drama, and more.     Making peace with yourself is fundamental to happiness and success. So join Mike and learn to have more compassion, more acceptance, and more love for yourself—thus giving you access to more compassion, more acceptance, and more love for the people (and everything else) in your life....

Title : Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way
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Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way Reviews

  • Yvonne V (Naughty Professora)
    2019-06-16 04:20

    Advance copy provided by Netgalley for review. Nothing Changes Until You Do is an inspiring read. Infused with personal history, antidotes from those close to the author, you are taken on a journey of self-discovery, self-acceptance, and self-love. A good reminder of what is really important in life, and what defines “happiness”. A must read. Very reminiscent of one of my other favorites “The Four Agreements”, Nothing Changes provides reminders that those old tapes that play in our head as critics, feeding us negative messages need to be erased so that we can see ourselves with new light. As a Psychology professor, I was impressed by the inclusion of Maslow’s Hierarchy to describe a pathway to fulfilling needs. One of the most significant messages is “You are more than what you do”: A reminder that how we earn our income doesn’t necessarily define an individual. It’s only one piece of the whole. Finding the other pieces of ourselves, and appreciating our worth and that of others, is what will lead to wealth and happiness. Highly recommend this to anyone that needs a reminder of the importance of living a fruitful life, and a life with meaning, purpose, and true happiness.

  • Pam Thomas
    2019-06-21 04:19

    One of the most powerful books, full of compassion, inspiring, mind blowing wisdom. The book inspires you to change your way of thinking and your behaviour together with motivating you. I love these self help books, very empowering, self love challenges way of thinking and help with transformation.

  • Lisa Niver
    2019-06-04 04:24

    I wrote about this book for Medium "Are Long Term Relationships the Key to Funding?"Are Long Term Relationships the Key to FUNDING?With nearly endless books, workshops and talks about how to get your new idea funded, it is hard to clear through all the noise to figure out what to do. I decided to go to a Funding Post event with a Venture Capital and Angel Roundtable at the Bingham Law Office in Los Angeles. There was a panel of featured speakers, a pitch competition and networking directly with local early-stage Angel Investors and Venture Capitalists. I realized the advice I have been giving my students and clients for years about being kind and developing relationships is still the golden ticket.As I listened to the panelists speak, many shared a nugget about how their priority is to find the right match. Cameron Casey (M7lab), believes the most important factor is finding someone that you can work with and who is coachable. Many people search for money or mentoring and forget to build a foundation before asking for financing.Similar advice of always be networking and search for all types of people including other entrepreneurs, investors, and bankers was heard from Stephen Block (K5 Venture Partners). I agree that you never know how the people you meet will turn into your top team. I once went to Koh Samui because of a tweet from a fellow travel blogger. I met one of her roommates who has now been my tech wizard for two years. I did not have that island on my trip plan but followed my instincts and found someone who has changed the course of my website and business. Block shared a truth that: “People invest with friends, the ones they know.” While you are out at events or traveling the planet, you just might find the person who holds the key to your next step.After thirty years of investment experience, Mary Coughlin, founder and Chief Investment Officer of Barnegat Bay Capital Management, says early meetings are always about getting to know people. “If there is a future fit we might work together but even if we don’t, each of us is enriched in some way for having connected.” Often potential partners are sizing each other up from minute one to see if a deal can happen but Coughlin suggests remembering “that long term relationships are imperative” and being willing to devote the time it takes to develop them is essential.I personally consider myself a networking ninja and collect interesting people everywhere I go. I felt that Marcus O. Filipovich (The Design Accelerator) summed up the theme of relationship building, when he said: “People invest in people that they like. The funding relationship has elements of a marriage. You need to hit it off.” A business relationship is like all the other relationships in your life. They all need time, care and consistency.Many people want to create a winning company. In Kidding Ourselves: The Hidden Power of Self-Deception, Joseph Hallinan explains that: “We are what psychologists like to call “risk optimists’..sticking with something helps. It leads to optimism, which leads to perseverance, which leads to success.” It is crucial to believe in yourself and build connections over time.One aspect that is sometimes forgotten in the pursuit of the perfect match is to be discriminating. Tom Nicholson (ARC Angel Fund) agrees that it is all about the associations. “Start them and keep them. You need to have good chemistry and an idea. Pursue connections and evaluate the investors as much as they are evaluating you.” Often in search of the deal, entrepreneurs forget to evaluate if it is meeting their needs. Both sides have to be gaining advantage for a true partnership to survive.In Nothing Changes Until You Do: A Guide to Self-Compassion and Getting Out of Your Own Way, Mike Robbins says:Too often in life, we unnecessarily overcomplicate things. As Woody Allen famously said, “Eighty percent of life is just showing up.” I think he’s right and that’s true whether we’re giving a speech, going out on a first date, having an important meeting at work, playing with our kids, trying something new, working on a creative project, or doing just about anything in life—big or small.Sometimes in the search for the perfect way to make a deal or get funded we forget the basics. As Wayne Gretzky famously said, “You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take.” Show up, have integrity and believe in yourself and your company.As Robbins says in Nothing Changes Until You Do: “Focus your attention on three things—have your attitude be as positive as it can be, your effort as passionate as possible, and your perspective as healthy as you’re able, then you can be a productive member of this…team…Remembering these things will help you engage effectively in anything that happens.”TEN STEPS To SUCCESS from Betsy Flanagan, Founder & CEO, WorkStrengths1. Go to networking events & track who you meet. Keep a spreadsheet with their information and short notes about what you talked about so you can refer to it later (e.g. their latest project, what they are excited about/focused on) OR if you connect on LinkedIn you can put this in the notes section. This is great because you never know in your 45+ year career when your paths may cross again!2. Look for similarities with others and highlight them (oh, I see you are from Maryland too, or I also went to Harvard, or I saw you mentioned yoga in your twitter feed — I teach yoga… but of course — don’t look like a stalker!).3. Appear competent — ask good questions! This requires doing your homework.4. Dress the part, don’t slouch and watch your body language. over 60% of communication is non-verbal.5. Follow up with the people you meet: go to coffee, talk on the phone, send some emails. Smart people like to meet other smart people! Make sure your emails to them, phone call or coffee is time well spent. Emails should be short and to the point. Do not make it all about you and do your homework — don’t ask questions that you can easily google the answer to.6. Find ways to be helpful to the people you meet at these events and others in your network. Give back — think/see if there is something you can help them with (e.g. if you are social media expert — take a look at their social media and see if you could offer suggestions for improvement — but do this tactfully. don’t come across as know it all). Or consider volunteering some time to help them with a project, or sending them information that may be valuable to them.7. Build a network of people who you can regularly ask questions, get advice and learn from.8. Use your connections — school, friends, family, past coworkers, professional organizations, sports teammates, contacts you make volunteering, social media connections and make your dreams come true9. If you are a student — take advantage of this! People LOVE to help students and are generally happy to chat for 15 minutes or go to coffee. But don’t ask for a lot of time. Keep your ask short (15–20 min call or coffee).10. Be strategic — in who you reach out to, who you invest in (who you volunteer your time for, etc. Time is a valuable and scarce resource).About the Author: Lisa Ellen Niver is a is a passionate writer, educator, social media expert, speaker and global citizen who has traveled to over one hundred countries and six continents. She writes for Wharton Business Magazine and founded the top 100 Travel Site, We Said Go Travel.

  • Angela Martinez
    2019-06-15 06:09

    I really enjoyed reading this book because it touches on so many points about building a relationship with oneself, which is so difficult. I liked how he made his points through stories in his life and that of those near him.

  • Sheila
    2019-06-07 23:24

    I knew and do most of what is in this book. Take care of your health would be the one admonition I should most heed.

  • ChristinaTorretta
    2019-06-19 05:03

    I'm trying not to critique this too harshly. The book sets out what the synopsis says it is going to do. In it Mike Robbins talks about many different things always circling back to how we treat ourselves. Which was what brought me to the book in the first place. As a creative person I am my own worst critic so I thought I would give this a try and get some positive vibes going.It was good. It was an easy read and Mike's point of view was well thought out and understandable. I loved some of his anecdotes and enjoyed reading the book. Now here is the but. BUT I wanted more. I came to a chapter that talked about meditation but he doesn't lead through the meditation, that was in the back of the book. Not really a huge deal, and easily addressed. All I had to do was swipe to my Kindle's table of contents and go to the meditation. But I like to read in the order that the author and publisher put the book into. It has to be for a reason, right?So, I skipped the meditation. No biggie. Next was the fact that although there are life lessons in this, and some very good ones by the way, I have been studying about this stuff for nearly 10 years so I was hoping for something a little more in depth. But as I said above, the book does give what it says it is going to give. And it is very easy to read.I think I would suggest for someone that hasn't read much about how to treat yourself to definitely pick this one up. There is a lot in this that you can take away and start doing straight after reading. If, however, you are like me you may just want to pick this up as a refresher. If you've read a lot about this subject you may not find much new it in although I did enjoy Mike's take on things!

  • Lorilin
    2019-06-15 02:25

    This was honestly a much better book than I thought it was going to be. I am usually very skeptical of self-help books written by younger people based mostly on their own life experiences. (I'm only 33, but Robbins isn't that much older at 40.) My expectations are impossibly high--like, okay young'un, you better tell me something I don't already know, and it better be profound or funny or comforting or something. Don't spit the same cliche BS.But I knew I was going to like Nothing Changes Until You Do right from the start, as I could immediately see that this was a book written by someone who had experienced real pain, loss, and disappointment--and learned something from it.Robbins is a best-selling author, but hasn't published a book in five years. Between books, he had to confront some pretty intense and challenging circumstances: the death of his mother, the birth of his two daughters, two miscarriages, as well as major financial struggle. These experiences forced him to do a lot of self-reflection, and Robbins shares some of what he learned in this book. He's humble and grateful, and I found the whole book to be extremely uplifting and refreshing.The book consists of very short 4 - 5 page chapters on various life lessons, for example, "A Bad Day for the Ego Is a Good Day for the Soul" or "Embrace Powerlessness" or "Have the Courage to Be Vulnerable." There are also a couple of meditation exercises in the back, which I found to be very helpful.Overall, this was a surprisingly wonderful read, and I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone facing and/or trying to make sense of challenging circumstances.

  • Jay Rooke
    2019-06-07 01:26

    I received "Nothing Changes Until You Do" as a gift and found it to be an enjoyable and impactful read. The author helps us gain awareness on how to engage our sense of self-compassion through sharing very personal stories of his own life that embody the lessons to be learned. Because the book is a series of shorter writings, the reader is able to skip around if she desires, but the prime benefit IMO is that one can spend 10-15 minutes here and there and still draw wisdom from the stories. There is something about being able to see ourselves in others that allows us to then internalize certain lessons. The author--by being vulnerable and bravely sharing some of his own struggles--made it possible for me to shift some unhelpful internal beliefs that I was carrying by allowing me to see myself outside of myself. Once I was able to realize that I felt compassion for the author in certain sections, I was then able to pivot, realize that I am (or had been) in some of those same situations myself, and thus experience self-compassion for myself, which is not a muscle that I easily engage.

  • Cagne
    2019-06-16 07:03

    About an hour in, I experienced getting annoyed. I felt that the author was feeding me a boring minimalist biography with the excuse of providing an example of a concept. This book might be 80% description of parts of his life and 20% message/lesson learned from it/example. As it piles up, it becomes kinda tedious, will I be listening to him narrating normal events for the 3 remaining hours, followed by a few minutes of directions? Keep in mind, he opened the book with a story of grieving and economical difficulty, so I didn't expect things to top that, while listening to him narrating throwing a fit because he forgot his passport.As the book went on, though, I got the idea of it. Mike Robbins surveys a wide range of mental health concepts, citing other authors (Brené Brown, Byron Katie) and books, providing the reader with a reminder of the things we heard, deemed good but then forgot (because, you can't cultivate everything at once). So it's useful both to the reader who starts fresh and to the more experienced ones who can use freshening up. You are still learning a lot about him though.

  • Christine Zibas
    2019-05-26 05:13

    This small book by Mike Robbins has some valuable lessons about caring for yourself. We all seem to be our own worst critics, and this book has some good ideas about changing that balance between joy and negativity. Broken up into small, readable chapters, a reader could really start anywhere in this book (or use it as a meditation, reading a chapter each day).There are plenty of examples from Robbins's own life, but what makes the book valuable are the central themes, one to a chapter, that give pause for thought. There's no earth-shattering news here, but a solid foundation in treating yourself with the same understanding and compassion you show your friends and family, for example.This is a book that's easy to read quickly, but the point is to consider the messages being sent, try and apply them to daily living, and seek to have a better, more fulfilling life by being kinder to yourself. It's not about comparing yourself to the neighbors or measuring your worth by your salary. It's about accepting and loving yourself for being a good person. That's a pretty solid message to send.

  • Cagne
    2019-06-07 05:20

    With its numerous small chapters, the book can pose as a daily tool of reflection upon something. Each chapter feels like a small pitch based on sharing some personal anecdote as a way to convey a lesson. In the audiobook format, the content keeps its 'reciting' value, but on text, some chapters experience a lot of digression into biography, to the point that you lose track of what the topic was to begin with. In others the personal element is more balanced with abstract concept text, and you can appreciate that. Mike Robbins surveys a wide range of mental health concepts, citing other authors (Brené Brown, Byron Katie) and books, providing the reader with a reminder of the things we heard, deemed good but then forgot (because, you can't cultivate everything at once), all grouped in the last pages in the 'suggested reading' section. So it's useful both to the reader who starts fresh and to the more experienced ones who can use freshening up. You are still learning a lot about him though.

  • Senator
    2019-06-09 23:19

    "Nothing Changes Until You Do" does have some very good lessons in it. However, as I read it, I got the sense of Mike Robbins and his life more than anything else. I understand that an author wishes to inspire through true life events but it unfortunately got to the point where I felt I was reading an autobiography. "Nothing Changes Until You Do" is more for the person already along in their goals/ self-development journey, needing a little nudge of inspiration along the way. Thank you to Hay House & NetGalley for an e-copy in exchange for bookseller/ review purposes.

  • Kerry
    2019-06-01 05:21

    I received a free copy of this book courtesy of the publisher in exchange for an honest review, all opinions are my own. What I tend to dislike about self help books is when you get too much narrative of their life and very little action to apply the lessons, or to think about for the future. While this book is laid out well and moves along, it is way too much narrative and reads more like an autobiography and not as a tool to learn, change or grow which is more what I look for when reading a book such a this one.

  • Scott Thompson
    2019-06-20 00:18

    This and Mike's two previous books were given to me as a gift after a speaking engagement for our company a little over two years ago. Having read all three titles in succession and listened to his lecture I can say that the authors words are from the heart and can have a profound impact on your perspective no matter how good or bad things may be in your current situation. I will definitely reach back to the pages in each of his three books for inspiration as needed.

  • Rubina
    2019-05-25 04:09

    A remarkable book filled with advice on how to achieve personal growth, contentment and happiness. The book is made up of 40 chapters or lessons, each no more than 10 pages. This, along with Robbins' writing style, makes reading a pleasure. This is now one of my favourite books which i would recommend to anyone looking to take their life to the next level.

  • Sara Yao
    2019-06-21 02:29

    Mike Robbins warmly and engagingly takes us on a journey to one of the greatest truths out there - nothing changes until we do! His mix of personal stories, client examples and applicable tools gives readers the inspiration and practicality needed to start looking inward in order to change our lives.

  • Fernando Estrada
    2019-06-03 01:24

    Espectacular libro. Muy revelador que nos brinda herramientas increíbles y sencillas para poder lidiar con nuestra mente, y dejar de ser nuestro propio obstáculo.En 40 sencillas lecciones , podrás descubrir lo que te limita, lo que te aterra y lo que te mantiene atado a tu pasado.

  • Anokina
    2019-06-19 06:19

    I couldn't get through it fast enough. Nothing original in here; and not even written in an original way. Pretty boring. Some nice personal stories from the author; but a lot of repetition and hackneyed phrases and sayings.

  • Ayat Al Bloushi
    2019-06-01 02:18

    Even though the topics are familiar, we as humans need to be reminded of them. This book inspired me to take some serious actions and steps towards changing things that I wasn't pleased with. It's a good read!

  • Any Length
    2019-06-20 04:15

    Not that much new stuff for those who are familiar with self-help/self-improvement but it had some nice stories from his personal life which made it all come alive. Good things in there for the novice.

  • Maggie
    2019-06-13 06:01

    Good summary of top nuggets of wisdom, though sometimes I would have prefered more depth than what was provided. Nice and concise way to present one's experiences with life for the benefit of others.

  • Melissa
    2019-06-12 04:05

    My husband saw this guy speak at a work event and they gave out signed copies of the book. I didn't really think it was all that helpful. Mostly anecdotes and not much help involved.

  • Sue Sharples
    2019-06-07 06:11

    excellent will read his other books

  • Julie
    2019-05-28 05:22

    One of the most inspiring books I've read. I marked so many passages and pages to go back and reread and I'm looking forward to doing just that, as well as reading Mike' other books.

  • Jenifer Jacobs
    2019-05-27 05:05

    Wonderful!! Totally readable and well written. Many ideas that resonate. I highly recommend this book! Will be buying several to keep (lend!) in the office too!

  • Corinne Rodrigues
    2019-06-09 06:29